In case you're not familiar with it, Financial Domination is sort of like prostitution without sex or any of those bits. Young women maintain regular contact with often older, wealthy guys, and will chat with them on webcam (fully clothed), speak with them on the phone, and meet up with them to go shopping. The men enjoy spending their money and often being ridiculed by these women. It's almost not seedy at all, but it still doesn't sit right with me.
Not long after watching this, I received a message from a chap called Daniel, who was actively seeking somebody to dominate him financially. I chatted to him, out of interest really. I have no intention of doing this - as I said, it doesn't sit right with me.
In the course of our short chat, he asked me if he was allowed to call me "Miss". He asked what brands of clothing I like, where I like to get my hair done, where do I get my shoes and handbags from, what makeup do I like. All these sorts of questions. He said, and I quote, "I would love to buy you outfits and dress you up ready to go on dates with fit young men". It was at this point that my brain just melted. Not only do these Financially Submissive guys not want anything sexual from you - other than the odd "telling off" - they actually want you to go and date other men and do God knows what else with them..
I started off feeling sorry for these men, like they were being taken advantage of. This obviously isn't the case. I won't be taking him up on his offer - it's not my cup of tea. But after reading all the negativity directed at the women who do, it makes me wonder if it isn't just out of pure jealousy.
Whether or not it's as harmless as it sounds is beyond me; for all I know, the men could begin to expect more from their women.
I still don't understand the men's desire to be "rinsed" though. Not one little bit.
Very interesting.
ReplyDeleteCuckoldry is one thing: there have been and are many husbands who urge their wives to take lovers. It's a logical by-product of any or all of: initial sexual incompatibility; the courage to reveal one's previously secret desires; and the changing of men's and women's sexuality over a lifetime. There is often a masochistic element to it; but masochism outside of a loving relationship is self-destructive IMHO.
I see it from the point that these men are often relatively powerful in the workplace, and therefore it's a sort of release for them to be controlled rather than controlling. I don't know whether the fact that they have these demanding careers makes them feel that they have no time for a relationship, as well. It's something that I can't imagine being satisfied by, but each to their own!
DeleteFinancial domination is nearly always masochistic, and nearly always coincides with a humiliation fetish. Yes, probably masochism outside a loving relationship is destructive. However, for a lot of men, they must go outside a loving relationship in order to experience the requisite level of danger and excitement. A lot of the discussion about this topic seems to ignore the fact it is a fetish, and that men are doing this for sexual excitement. They often are involved in other regular relationships while they do it. These type of fetishes can develop for a variety of reasons, but they nearly always stem from child developmental issues of one kind of another. Now, may i give you all my money while i sit around and jerk off in my wife's clothes all day like the pitiful loser that i'am?
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