Pondering, Austen style.

This is just a little bit of a mess really, I didn’t plan on posting it, but anyway...


I’m a big fan of Jane Austen. I frequently receive messages from men that quite frankly puzzle me to point of despair. “nice tits” is one that comes up a lot. I won’t let a bloke like that sweep me off my feet.

Those comments probably sound totally unrelated, but I’ve been thinking lately. I’m writing these men off instantly. Literally, I’ll read the message, click back, and never look again. But...

Mr Darcy. He went through such a transformation. The first impression he gave was that of an absolute arsehole, truth be told. But because he has strong principles, and through falling in love and learning to look beyond facades etc, he comes out of his hard shell and becomes worthy of pretty-much-perfect-Elizabeth.

This speaks to me on loads of levels. Should I be giving these guys a bit more of a chance? First impressions-wise, am I giving off the wrong one in order to attract these guys in the first place?

I think Austen can teach us a lot about men, even today. Henry Crawford, for example. Probably the type of man we should all avoid, flirts with anyone and everyone. The type of man that is all over you from the very first second. Who asks nothing about your life. Full of sexually charged banter and only asks you on late-night dates. We should avoid this man, and avoid behaving like the female equivalent of this man. Can you become addicted to flirting, and therefore be more reluctant to enter into a relationship or be faithful in a relationship?