Quite recently, some of the girls and I were discussing our Magic Numbers - how many men we've slept with. It got me wondering, how many is too many? Who really gives a shit?
I'm not really a one night stand type of person. By that, I mean I don't pick men up in clubs, shag them, and send them home. I don't think less of those who do, it just isn't for me. My magic number is....11. I'm not sure if this is high or low within the general population, but I'm OK with it. I've had two very long term relationships, and the others were generally third-date type shags or friends-with-benefits scenarios. People seem to make the assumption that I've slept with looooads of people because I talk about sex a lot. I haven't.
As I've said before, I'm not a feminist by any stretch of the imagination. The one thing that does bother me though, is that women simply aren't allowed to exhibit the sexual behaviour that men are. Women who shag on date one are said to be "giving it up" too early; I don't see it as giving, but actually as getting. People seem to forget that women enjoy sex - we don't just use it as a tool to get what we want or make men fall in love with us. We don't even do it just because men like it. Sometimes we just want to be fucked, plain and simple. If you're hungry, you eat. If you're thirsty, you drink. It therefore makes sense that if you're horny, you should fuck. I am by no means suggesting that girls go wild as a salmon and mount a truckload of penises - unless they want to of course - but more that maybe the time has come for society to accept that women are allowed to enjoy sex just as much as men.
